Sunday Reflection: An understanding heart

I think all of us can identify with the fairly common question that kids ask one another at some time or another, “If a genie popped out of that mythic lamp and told you, you could have one wish granted, what would it be.”  Of course, I always responded with, 100 more wishes! Wouldn’t life be grand if periodically we had some omnipotent Genie that could grant our wishes, dreams and desires every now and then?  

Perhaps because of the fantastic fantasy of such a dream we might find it odd that Solomon in today’s first reading when the Lord of Lord’s and King of King’s, God Himself, appeared to him and told him to ask for something and that it would be granted - one might have thought of all sorts of wonderful things that Solomon could have asked for.  Yet, he asked for only thing - an understanding heart to distinguish right from wrong. 

My sisters and brothers, there is reason why Solomon in tradition is called wise or that we refer to the wisdom of Solomon - for in responding to the Lord’s generous gift, Solomon indeed chose wisely. 

To distinguish right from wrong is the daily challenge that we must wrestle with as we strive to live lives of integrity as disciples of the Lord.  Matthew records for us the words of the Lord Jesus to his disciples - to us - speaking of the kingdom of heaven.  Through comparisons to everyday life, Jesus the master teacher, is urging us to see this new creation that he has ushered in as a treasure buried in a field, or the pearl of great price, or the great catch of fish.

In other words, seeking, living and building God’s reign in our midst must become the overriding passion that gives ultimate focus and meaning to our lives.  No wonder that we, like Solomon, should pray frequently for the gift of discernment that we too might have an understanding heart to distinguish right from wrong - what builds up the Reign of God or what can become a barrier and stumbling block for God’s Kingdom to Grow right here in our midst. 

Sadly, in these last few years, we have collectively witnessed the tragic results when wisdom is wanting in the leadership of our country.  When narcissistic needs become the motivating impetus for the craving of power and control, we witness the collapse of the harmony that should characterize a healthy society. When ideological enmity, name calling, stigmatization of the marginal and the ‘other’ become the reason for maintaining power, integrity collapses and foolishness replaces wisdom. 

To choose wisely, to distinguish right from wrong will forever be the hallmark of personal integrity and holiness as members of the Kingdom.    More often than not the wisdom to choose rightly with an understanding heart begins with the seemingly insignificant choices of everyday life.  For husbands and wives, the choice to say that kind and loving word rather than to be self-righteously critical or to play those old tapes of an unforgiven wound that we hold onto to as a power play over one’s spouse;   for parents to be affirming as they maximize praise for their children and as they teach them the consequences of choosing wisely and unwisely in their own lives; for employers who treat their employees with fairness and justice respecting the dignity of every person and for employees who bring a moral vision of what is right and wrong to the workplace.  For Bishops, Priests, deacons and all involved in the work of the Gospel, that they speak the truth in love and pray for the courage to serve rather than be served as well as the humility to seek forgiveness when we have failed to lead with integrity and virtue.

Solomon indeed chose wisely when he asked the Lord for an understanding heart to distinguish right from wrong.  In this age of moral relativism where the good is so often equated with the comfortable and convenient choices we make in life, let us too ask for that Gift from Lord.  May it be our path to integrity and holiness of life now and always.

Sunday Reflection: Trust over Fear

Some years ago there was a national study of people’s fears. Thousands of people were asked what they feared most? The pollsters were sure they already knew the answer: The fear of dying would rank number one. But they were wrong! When all the data were in, the fear of dying was a distant second. People’s greatest fear by far was the fear of speaking in public! In other words, most people would rather die than face an audience!

My brothers and sisters, fear is no stranger to any of us. In many shapes and sizes it regularly arrives on our doorstep all uninvited. It has the power to rob us of the best parts of life, the power to steal whole days, weeks, and years from us, and the power to lock us up in narrow places behind grey walls. In fact, unchecked and prolonged fear in our lives can lead to one of the most prevalent undiagnosed problems of psychological unrest for millions of people in our world - clinical depression.

Yet, even in the face of dangers that are truly life-threatening, fear can take control of us only if we let it, that is, only if our inner self is out of order and in disarray.

In his words to us about fear, Jesus is really talking to us about what may be out of order in our inner selves. He’s urging us to attend to our unfinished inner work so that fear will have no power to invade our hearts and wound or paralyze us.

So what is this unfinished inner work of ours? It varies from person to person, but it always hinges on two things: what we see when we look at ourselves (which may not be what’s actually there!), and what we see when we look at God.

When we look at ourselves, if we’re blind to any part of the goodness that God has put in us, we’re opening the door to fear and offering it a long-term lease on our life.

If we look within and close our eyes to any part of our dark side and pretend it isn’t there, we’ll end up projecting that darkness outside onto other people who will scare us to death because we’ve made them look so monstrous.

When we look at God, if we fail to recognize how completely God is father to us, or fail to see how great is his power and how unthinkable it is that he would ever abandon us - if we fail to see all that, we are giving fear the key to our lives and inviting it to stay.

What God wants for us all is a wonderful life, free of the fear that can shrivel and kill. He is asking us this very day to see him as he really is, our very dear father, and to see ourselves as he made us, gifted and cherished children who still are in the process of becoming the people God intends us to be.

“Look at what’s right under your nose,” the Lord says to us. “Trust what you see and banish fear from your heart forever.” That is his word to us this day. Let us listen to him and trust.