Sunday Reflection - Memento Mori

Some years ago, public television’s Masterpiece Theatre broadcast an interesting play titled, “Memento Mori.” It’s about a group of eccentric London aristocrats each of whom receives a series of anonymous phone calls with the same frightening message.

“Remember, you must die,” says the caller. “Remember, you must die.”

The reaction of each of them speaks volumes. The first to receive a call is a very rich, self-centered woman. When her call comes, she’s utterly shocked - she’d never even considered that her perfect little self-contained world might come to an end. Her arrogant facade crumbles, fear consumes her, and she dies.

Next in line is an elderly gentleman. After receiving his call, he decides to go for broke and take just one more nubile young wife - his fourth. Unfortunately, it’s more than his heart can take. And he too is gone in a trice. Another gent dismisses the caller as a prankster, and thinks no more about it, while the nastiest-tempered of the lot takes the call as a signal to settle old scores and get even with all his enemies before it’s too late.

Each in turn reacts thoughtlessly out of a lifetime of habit, till finally the last woman is called. She thanks the caller, “I’m so glad you called,” she says. “You know, at my age one forgets so many things.

It is good of you to remind me of this most important fact.” And with that she sets about rebuilding her life, healing old wounds, and putting aside all that doesn’t really matter. There is no question that she got the message!!

My brothers and sisters, as Advent begins today, the Lord is giving us this same kind of wake-up call: “Remember, you must die.” So how are we going to respond? By panicking or despairing or binging or,

the old reliable, shopping? None of the above. We’re going to respond to the wake-up call by waking up! Waking up to what we may have been missing, namely, the preciousness of the present moment - cherishing each moment, and living it graciously, generously, and single-mindedly - as if this were our only moment.

That’s all that God asks: if we’ll attend to today, he’ll handle eternity.

It sounds so easy, just one moment at a time, lived with care. But all of us have a hard time doing it, because the moments have always been there, as long as we can remember, just rolling in - one after another - like waves. So we take them for granted, treat them as throwaways and make very little of most of them. We get into little ruts, and fall into habits that numb our brains and let us go through the motions of living without noticing we haven’t got a life.

Like the rude guest at the cocktail party, who talks to us distractedly while watching over our shoulder for someone more interesting, we regularly look right over the present, with its special people and unique opportunities, and squander our attentions on trivia or on nothing at all. So often we settle for the table scraps of life instead of relishing the banquet that’s within reach.

Advent’s wake-up call is an invitation to stop settling for table scraps or for half a life. It’s a call to seize this day and to cherish every single part of it as God’s personal gift to us It’s a call to value the things that really matter. And it’s a promise that, if we take care of our moments, God will take care of eternity.

May God grant that we learn to cherish the gift of life by giving our whole selves wisely and graciously to each moment. Then, when our life’s course is run, and that last moment is upon us, we will walk into the arms of our Lord without fear and without regret.

In 'Wachet auf, ruft uns die Stimme', performed by the Netherlands Bach Society for All of Bach, everything revolves around the parable of the wise and foolish virgins. They wait throughout the night with burning lamps for the arrival of the bridegroom. Five of them have brought along extra oil to keep their lamp burning. The others run out of oil and go off to buy some more. The bridegroom arrives while they are away.

Sunday Reflection - 'Eulogy Virtues'

Truth be told, brothers and sisters, the moving story that we have heard this morning from the Second Book of Maccabees always makes me chuckle a bit.  While it speaks of the incredible courage and integrity of the Jewish brothers who would rather face death rather than violate the Jewish dietary laws and be defiled by eating pork, it reminds me of a story that occurred some years ago when I was Rector of Holy Family Cathedral.  I was proclaiming this very same first reading and as I looked down to the congregation, sitting right there in front of the ambo was a gentleman who worked for the National Pork Association – and he was wearing a sweatshirt that had emblazoned on it “Pork, the other white meat!”  Frankly, I had to do everything in my power from not breaking out into laughter at the incongruity of the moment. 

Aside from this little humorous anecdote, this story of the brothers willing to face death because of their deeply held convictions has resonated down through the centuries with men and women who have sacrificed much, if not all, to live lives of conviction rather than convenience. 

As we find ourselves poised on another election year that for many of us couldn’t come any sooner, a story of conviction and the price we are willing to pay for the truths that shape our lives and that of our country, could not be more fitting. 

In the 243 years of our republic, the arc of our history has thankfully been attentive to the ‘better angels of our nature’ a beloved phrase taken from Abraham Lincoln’s first inaugural address.  While there is no question that the dark side of our history has not always been a reflection of the best of who we are as a people and a nation, the striving to shape ‘a more perfect union’ continues to be a burning passion for men and women of integrity and conviction down through the decades of our existence. 

I’m very fond of the writing of David Brooks, author and  commentator for the New York Times. In his book, Road to Character, Brooks speaks of what he refers to as ‘résumé virtues’ and ‘eulogy virtues.’  Resume virtues focus on all the things we have accomplished that focus on self-advancement.  Eulogy virtues, on the other hand, are the ones that touch at the very heart of what it means to be a person of character: selflessness, bridge-builder, a person of compassion and empathy, one who nurtures the goodness in others, a passionate truth teller, one who is willing to sacrifice one’s own personal needs and wants for the good of the other.  

In our second reading today from Paul’s Second Letter to the Thessalonians, he speaks of the virtue of hope and encouragement that you and I are to reflect to the world because we have been recipients of those same gifts from Christ Jesus Himself.  

And so, my friends, as the great moment in our democracy nears, let us see in this tremendous privilege of our Republic the opportunity to shape our decisions and choices by the résumé virtues that are the foundation of true character and integrity in life.  Let us seize this opportunity to help shape a community and nation of hope and encouragement where all God’s children are reverenced and provided the opportunity to experience the freedom of the sons and daughters of God.  

Sunday Reflection - Speak Lord, your servant is listening

Alan Bennett, the English playwright who wrote “The Madness of King George,” has a line in his autobiography that needs sharing.  He says, “The majority of people perform well in a crisis and when the spotlight is on them; it’s on the Sunday afternoons of life, when nobody is looking, that the spirit falters.” 

Isn’t it so!  The Sunday afternoons, the et cetera parts of life, those flat places where there’s nothing of interest in sight and no visible curves in the road around which something wonderful might be about to appear.  The spirit does falter, and whisper of “why bother” and “what’s the use” echo in our ear. 

Those are the times we have the least heart for praying, but they are the times we most need to pray.  Why?  Because those are the days we most need to see the world through God’s eyes.  That is where good prayer always starts, trusting God enough to let go and look through his eyes - the eyes of a wise father.  If we do that and if our hearts are open, we’ll begin to see what God sees, and hope as God hopes.  We’ll begin to want what God wants, and do what God does. 

That’s what prayer in faith does inside us.  It slowly reshapes our ideas and our perspectives to match God’s, slowly reshapes our values and our expectations of life to match God’s. 

Ever so slowly praying changes us, and in time it even changes the way we pray.  And precisely because real change comes only gradually, we have to stick with that inner conversation with our Lord, even and especially on the Sunday afternoons of life - which sometimes last all week long!

My friends, God has so much to show us and to teach us.  We have so much to learn, so many new doors that need to be opened, and so many old ones that need to be closed permanently.   

So where do we begin?  By telling God our story once again, all the parts of it this time, both the grim and the bright.  And then by speaking the words the prophet Samuel spoke in darkest night so long ago, “Speak, Lord.  Your servant is listening.”  If we are listening from the heart, we will change.  Even the most gnarled parts of us can be transformed and changed!  “Speak, Lord.  Your servant is listening!”

Sunday Reflection - The Mystery of Evil

For the last decade in our country we have sadly witnessed the spiraling escalation of gun violence that has tragically snuffed out the lives of literally thousands of innocent lives from the children at Sandy Hook Elementary School to people of all ages innocently enjoying a concert in Las Vegas.  Such senseless tragedies cannot help but trigger the age-old question for people of faith: “How can a good God permit such evil - the death of so many innocent lives?”   

This wrenching question undoubtedly prompted the Prophet Habakkuk to utter his words of lament in our first reading this morning: 

How Long, O Lord? I cry for help

but you do not listen!

I cry out to you, “Violence!” 

But you do not intervene.  

Why do you let me see ruin;

why must I look at misery?

Destruction and violence are before me

There is strife, and clamorous discord. 

As the French saying goes, “The more things change, the more they remain the same.”  Humanity continues to struggle with the powers of darkness that frustrate the plans of a loving and gracious God.  Philosophers and theologians have wrestled with the problem of evil for centuries.  They too have tried to come to some understanding of the paradox that evil presents for those who believe in the goodness of God.   

What has in time provided at least a beginning of an answer for me over the years is seeing the problem of evil, particularly moral evil, tied to the mystery of human freedom.  We believe that God created us in freedom.  We are not puppets manipulated by the strings of some heavenly spirit.  When God breathed life into the human soul, God breathed the freedom that creates the possibility for both love and, sadly, hate to exist.  Coercion to love is manipulation.    Because we are created in freedom, we can choose to love or not to love - Paradoxically, that is what makes love genuine. 

God’s word that informs our faith is an ongoing message that challenges us daily to “choose love and life.”  Yet, all of us know that at times that message goes unheeded.  At the root of sin, lies the self-destructive tendency in all of us to close our ears to this challenge and to choose self, to choose the way of that will satisfy solely “my needs, my wants, my desires.”  Carried to its extreme, this absorption and preoccupation with self creates the lethal environment in our world that can trigger the darkness that can so brutally scar the human spirit.   

No wonder then that the apostles asked the Lord for an “Increase in faith.”  For there is no other antidote to this human tendency toward self absorption than the larger vision of life that comes to us by way of the gift of faith.   

Faith broadens our vision to realize that we have an eternal destiny that is shaped by one who triumphed over the power of darkness and refused to be defeated by death.  The triumph of the cross and the one who hung upon it empowers us to confront the darkness with eternal hope.   “If you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you would say to his mulberry tree, ‘Be uprooted and planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you.” 

My sisters and brothers, the evil of these times, must be confronted not with the spirit of darkness but rather the spirit of light that gives focus and direction to our courage.  Paul in his letter to Timothy sets before us wise advice when he reminds us that “God did not give us a spirit of cowardice but rather of power and love and self-control.” 

In the days and weeks ahead, may our prayer be for an increase in faith that can indeed empower us to build a world where all God’s children will be free from fear. May the Lord  “lead us to seek beyond our reach and give us the courage to stand before his truth with hearts renewed by love.

 

Sunday Reflection: Humility

A pastor decided it was high time to give his people a serious talking to.  His sermon hit fever pitch when he roared, “Every member of this parish is going to die....every member!”  As he scanned the congregation in a somewhat self satisfied way to gauge the impact of his dramatic and sobering words, he was pleased to see that his people looked duly sober, except for one middle-aged woman who had a big smile on her face.  “What are you smiling at?” growled the pastor.  “Well, said the smiling lady, “I’m not a member of this parish - I never registered!” 

My brothers and sisters, we can certainly give that lady a “A-plus for denial!” as well as an “A-Plus for Hubris- that marvelous word that means foolish pride that has a way of persuading us to think that we’re not like the rest of folks. In our more honest moments, of course, we know that’s a lie, but isn’t it amazing how much energy so many of us can waste trying to prove it’s true. 

Unwholesome pride can take many different forms in many different people.  For some, it can be slavery to a lifestyle that’s supposed to prove we’re different and better.  For some, it can be a fierce competitiveness in even the silliest things...the need to win at all costs...to prove we’re different and better.  For some, it can be an intellectual arrogance, taking pride in gathering up knowledge about arcane subjects again to prove we’re different, smarter, and better than the rest.  

Whatever it’s shape, pride is always ugly.  And it always cuts us off from others and deprives us of the one thing we really desire: solidarity and communion with one another.  What an irony that is: To work so hard to prove we’re special and then to end up scorned and alone because people can’t stand being around us. “For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled.” 

So what about the alternative, humility?  Unfortunately, the word itself has been so caricatured in recent times that I suspect the first thing that pops into most our minds on hearing it is the image of some groveling, spineless individual, who lacks self determination and direction in life.  Or the image of the self-effacing individual who shudders at the thought of praise or recognition.   

Where in the world did we get such images?  Where in the world did we get the idea that humility means brushing off all praise and minimizing our gifts?  My brothers and sisters, that’s not humility  - that’s ingratitude to God, who gave us good gifts to be developed, enjoyed, and shared.   

So what does real humility look like?  Real humility is truth.  And the essential truth about us is that under the skin we’re all the same, made from the same earth, short-lived, in need of one another’s help, rejoicing in the compassion of others, equally hungering for spiritual depth, all destined to grow old and die. 

That’s the truth about us.  And once we face it, face our own pains and fears and our own need for help, we begin to see and understand the same needs in others.  We begin to recognize one another as sisters and brothers.  And the thought of trying to prove we’re different or better is exposed as bizarre, irrelevant, and a lie.  Suddenly, we’re not alone.  We’re surrounded by fellow pilgrims, all walking the same road to the Lord.  Jesus was indeed right: If we humble ourselves - if we are vulnerable enough to speak the truth and live the truth about ourselves - we will be exalted and transformed. And we won’t have to wait for heaven for that to begin.

My brothers and sisters, the Lord invites us to relax in Him; to relish his good gifts to us and to share them with others.  The Lord invites us to walk in the truth - a truth that will truly make us free and faithful in Christ.

 

Sunday Reflection - Nothing lasts forever

As many of you know, I have a great fascination for books.  It is not uncommon for me to wander through a used bookstore looking for interesting titles as well as bargains.  In fact, some years ago as I was browsing through one of these bookstores I came across an interesting book by Frank Kendig and Richard Hutton entitled Life Spans, or How Long Things Last.  In it, I discovered some interesting facts.  For example, I discovered that the average life of baseball shoes worn by your favorite major league star is only two months.  Even more surprising, you discover that the average life of the stick used by one's favorite hockey player is only two games.  You also discover that the average life of a soldier's boots in peacetime is fifteen months, while in wartime it drops to only three months. 

While the lifespans of certain things are shorter than we might think, the lifespans of other things are quite long.  For example, a beer can left behind by someone camping on a mountain will still be there 80 years from now.  And a leather shoe left behind at the same site will be there 50 years from now.  Finally, the average rock that protrudes from the ground will still be there a thousand years from now.   

But whatever it is, a hockey stick, a beer can, or a rock - the authors assure us that it will eventually disappear.  For nothing lasts forever.  What is true of these material objects is also true of human beings.  We too will eventually disappear.  None of us will last forever in the life we know now.  And that's precisely the point that Jesus makes in today's gospel. Isn't that the reason why we hear the sobering warning from his lips this day:  Light your lamps...You also must be prepared, for at an hour you do not expect, the Son of Man will come.

While Biblical scholars tell us that Jesus is referring here to his Second Coming, theologians assure us that the Lord's words may also be understood as referring to the end of our own individual lives - the hour of our death.   And for that moment, Jesus encourages us to be prepared. 

Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, had a favorite story that touches on this point of preparedness.  The story concerns a sailor who was shipwrecked and washed ashore on a South Pacific island.  He was greeted enthusiastically by natives.  They clapped and sang, hoisted him on their shoulders, carried him to their village, and sat him on a golden throne.  

Little by little, the sailor learned what was going on.  The islanders had a custom of occasionally making a man king for a year.  During his kingship he could order his subjects to do anything within reason, and they would obey him without question.  The sailor was delighted that he had been chosen to be the king.  He couldn't believe his good fortune.  Then one day he began to wonder what happened to a king when his year of kingship ended. That's when his excitement and enthusiasm came to an abrupt end.  He discovered that at the end of his kingship, he would be banished to a barren island, called "King's Island".  There he would be left to starve to death as a sacrifice to the gods. After the sailor recovered from his shock, he slowly began to put together a plan.   

As a king, he ordered the carpenters of the island to build a fleet of small boats.  When the boats were ready, he ordered the farmers of the island to dig up fruit trees and plants, put then in the boats, and transplant them on King's Island.  Finally, he ordered the stone masons to build a house on King's Island.  In this way, the sailor prepared carefully for the day when his kingship would end and he would be banished to King's Island.  

And Jesus tells us: ...provide an inexhaustible treasure in heaven that no thief can reach nor moth destroy..." The Lord is inviting us to broaden the moral horizons of our lives to realize that you and I have a future destiny that will depend on how we have lived our lives in the present moment. That future destiny, however, is grasped by faith and not by sight.  A faith, as the author to the Hebrews reminds us, that is more a matter of the heart that trusts in love than the science of cold logic.  For in the end, as St. Paul so eloquently reminds us,  only three things will last - faith, hope and love - and the greatest of these is love.