Character

One of the most insightful books that I read last year was by the New York Times columnist, David Brooks.  The Book is entitled, The Road to Character (Random House Publishing Group, 2015).  In the opening lines of its Introduction, Brooks writes:

Recently I’ve been thinking about the difference between the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues. The résumé virtues are the ones you list on your résumé, the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success. The eulogy virtues are deeper. They’re the virtues that get talked about at your funeral, the ones that exist at the core of your being— whether you are kind, brave, honest or faithful; what kind of relationships you formed. Most of us would say that the eulogy virtues are more important than the résumé virtues, but I confess that for long stretches of my life I’ve spent more time thinking about the latter than the former. Our education system is certainly oriented around the résumé virtues more than the eulogy ones. Public conversation is, too— the self-help tips in magazines, the nonfiction bestsellers. Most of us have clearer strategies for how to achieve career success than we do for how to develop a profound character. 

Brooks goes on to speak of the critically important virtue of character as it has been mirrored through famous men and women down through history.  Each chapter focuses on one of these personages and movingly narrates how ‘character’ and ‘integrity’ were the motivating ‘eulogy’ virtue in their lives.  I’d like to share with you a few ‘gems’ from his book as we all strive to live lives of virtue, integrity and character in the Lord.

The self-effacing person is soothing and gracious, while the self-promoting person is fragile and jarring.

Humility is infused with lovely emotions like admiration, companionship, and gratitude. “Thankfulness,” the Archbishop of Canterbury, Michael Ramsey, said, “is a soil in which pride does not easily grow.”

If you don’t have some inner integrity, eventually your Watergate, your scandal, your betrayal, will happen.

“A sense of humility is a quality I have observed in every leader whom I have deeply admired,” (Dwight David Eisenhower)

Suffering simultaneously reminds us of our finitude and pushes us to see life in the widest possible connections, which is where holiness dwells.

Over the past few decades there has been a sharp rise in the usage of individualist words and phrases like “self” and “personalized,” “I come first” and “I can do it myself,” and a sharp decline in community words like “community,” “share,” “united,” and “common good.”  The use of words having to do with economics and business has increased, while the language of morality and character building is in decline.  Usage of words like “character,” “conscience,” and “virtue” all declined over the course of the twentieth century. Usage of the word “bravery” has declined by 66 percent over the course of the twentieth century. “Gratitude” is down 49 percent. “Humbleness” is down 52 percent and “kindness” is down 56 percent. 

University of Notre Dame Commencement Ceremonies

By serendipitous chance, I watched virtually all of the Commencement ceremony at the University of Notre Dame this morning via live stream.  It was an impressive and moving ceremony.  Rev. Gregory J. Boyle, S.J., was the recipient of the 2017 Laetare Medal, the oldest and most prestigious honor given to American Catholics by the University.  Fr. Boyle is the legendary founder of “Homeboy Industries” here in Los Angeles.  Homeboy Industries provides hope, training, and support to formerly gang-involved and previously incarcerated men and women allowing them to redirect their lives and become contributing members of our community. Each year over 10,000 former gang members from across Los Angeles come through Homeboy Industries’ doors in an effort to make a positive change. They are welcomed into a community of mutual kinship, love, and a wide variety of services ranging from tattoo removal to anger management and parenting classes. Full-time employment is offered for more than 200 men and women at a time through an 18-month program that helps them re-identify who they are in the world, offers job training so they can move on from Homeboy Industries and become contributing members of the community - knowing they count!

There were a number of distinguished guests at this year’s ceremony, yet none spoke more eloquently than Fr. Boyle.  It is indeed a credit to our Nation’s premier Catholic institution that they would so honor this priest whose life has been dedicated to tearing down walls of indifference and raising up the dignity of these sons and daughters of God.

 

 

 

Pope Francis gives Ted talk

Providing a healthy corrective to a prevalent, "Only I can fix it" mentality, our Holy Father speaks of the transformation that a 'we mentality' can bring to our fractured world.  Bravo!

Unless you speak Italian, press "cc" for subtitles in English.  It is well worth listening in its entirety.